Releasing The Power To Lead Your Mind

Coaching is largely about empowering individuals to create changes and make improvements in different aspects of their lives.

Empowering clients to lead themselves, particularly in the area of the mind, has a powerful effect in the coaching process.

What Is Leadership?

What is the first picture that comes to your mind when you think about leadership?

Here are some answers that some friends and clients have shared with me: 

  • being led
  • leading other
  • a group of people following a leader
  • a person leading others

For most people these answers may resemble their perception of a leader. If you operate in some type of leadership role, you primarily think of the leadership you have over those whom you lead.

Leadership for the most part is seen as a quality that is practiced externally. We see leadership as something someone does for others. However, leadership starts from within and then it extends outwards.

Everyone is a Leader

You may have never considered yourself a leader, especially if you are not involved in a position of leadership. You may be an assistant to your boss, so you only see him as a leader. You may even be an assistant to your boss’ assistant so you are even further down the chain.

Leadership is influence and no one or nothing else has greater influence on us than our own thoughts. They are the voice we listen to most. Their influence on us can be uplifting and encouraging, and at times devastating and disempowering. A thought can stifle our clients’ actions and their ability to move forward.

Why Lead Yourself?

There are many good reasons for increasing the quality of personal leadership.

Consider several important facts about leading yourself:

  • The most important person you will ever lead is YOU.
  • Every part of you needs a leader:  your mind, your emotions and your will.
  • You are leading yourself every waking moment of your life, regardless of any position or title you may hold, and regardless if you are aware of it or not.
  • How effectively you lead or serve others depends on how effectively you lead YOU.
  • Where you find yourself today reflects the quality of your personal leadership.
  • The best gift you can give your spouse, children, clients, employer, co-workers, is a better YOU.
  • A better you is achieved by effectively and constantly leading YOU.

What Is to Be Led?

Everyone leads and is led at some level. When we are led by someone we are simply taking orders and executing them with minimal resistance, if any.

In a world that is filled with so many control and manipulation-thirsty individuals and systems, this could be a very vulnerable condition to be in.  There are so many people and things that want to take control of you.  Those who do not master the art of leading themselves are the ones who are easily persuaded by those external or internal sources that desire to control them.

A thought can lead you, and typically it will lead you to places you won’t enjoy and places you won’t want to stay for very long. A feeling can lead you to say or take an action which you may later regret. Thoughts and emotions are two powerful forces that intrinsically attempt to lead us. When we are their followers we take their orders and simply march on.

You cannot afford for someone else to lead you all the time because you will never arrive at your desired destination. Instead you will arrive where that someone or something else wants you to arrive.

Techniques to Lead Your Self

Leadership Evaluation

Let’s see how you rate your ability to lead yourself in this area:

Your thoughts go where you allow them  ————————  Poor leadership
Your thoughts go where you lead them consistently ———   Effective leadership
Your thoughts go where you don’t want them to —————  No leadership – the mind is leading

Releasing the Power to Lead Your Mind

Your mind needs a leader. 

The immature mind hops from one thing to another; the mature mind seeks to follow through.

-HARRY A. OVERSTREET

Who is leading your mind and where is it being led? Here are a few tips:

1. Take Charge

You can allow your mind to run wild and it can take you to dangerous places. One picture in your mind, if given enough attention, can make you change your plans.  It can cause you to do something you never thought you would do, for example, drugs, alcohol, infidelity, or even murder.

Your thoughts are like children.  If not led effectively they can take control of your life. Your thoughts will have lots of fun with you but it will be messy and you won’t enjoy the clean up!

When you are led by your thoughts you can see thoughts in front of you.  When you take charge you can visualize yourself in front, with the thoughts following you.

Your can take charge of your thoughts by positioning yourself as the leader of your mind. As a coach, I assist my client in this area by creating a series of declarations whereby the client is installed and officially declared the leader of his/her mind! This can be a fun and impacting experience.

The client is declared as the leader of the mind and makes a conscious commitment to self, not to follow thoughts but to lead the thoughts effectively.

2. Increase Your Awareness

Anything you become aware of you have the ability to control. Anything you are unaware of, or blinded to, has the potential of controlling you.

Everything man has created has undergone a two-step process.  The first step is to see it with the mind and the second is its actual physical creation.  The first process is where visualization takes place.  One of the most powerful resources we have as humans is our ability to imagine, to think, to dream, to create, to invent. In order for us to unlock this resource and use this God-given capability, we need to have the awareness of how we lead our minds in this process.

There are two things you will need to increase awareness of: your thoughts and your ability to lead those thoughts. This knowledge is very empowering as it gives you a sense of control over your mind and dismantles feelings or beliefs of incapability and powerlessness.

3. Develop Consistency

Most of the battles you will ever face in life will take place in the fields of your mind. If you win the battle of the mind, you will win the battle in life.  One way to maintain the leadership of your thoughts is to continuously confront them. As the client increases awareness about thoughts, he/she can confront them by asking:

  • Where am I leading myself?
  • Am I leading my thoughts, or are my thoughts leading me?
  • What is the source of this thought?
  • How true is this thought?
  • What does this thought or feeling contribute to me?

When thoughts go uncontested, our mind seems to play games with us because it has a green light all the time. It seems some of the most absurd or obnoxious thoughts tend to infiltrate our mind at the worse times. When you start to confront your thoughts on a consistent basis, it is as though you are installing a traffic light in the highway of your mind. The free access they had to your mind now has a filter that warns them or even stops them cold in their tracks.

4. Correct Your Focus

Whatever you focus on expands.

-T. HARV ECKER

This is another great technique to use as you improve the level of your personal leadership.

As you master the art of leadership of self, you become an empowered leader who effectively guides your mind by correcting its focus and bringing it back to the path that will advance you toward the goal you want to achieve or the future you want to create.

You can focus on a minuscule problem and after five minutes it has become the size of Mount Everest! Focusing on one small bad thing in life may lead you to one that is worse, to one that is impossible, to feeling distressed and despaired, or to feeling completely powerless to do anything about it.

You can change your state of mind by changing your focus. As your focus shifts, so do your feelings. You can help your client focus on one area of their life that is working.  This helps to build momentum to achieve their goals or to create changes in the other areas.

5. Use the Law of Displacement

A thought can hunt and torment you if you do not exercise control over it. Here is another technique to increase your personal leadership.

Light and darkness cannot exist in the same place at the same time. If you enter a dark room and you want it to be bright, you don’t put a blanket around the darkness, tie it up and carry it outside so that there will be light! Neither do you enter the room and start speaking to the darkness to leave.  You simply turn on the light switch. When the light is turned on, darkness is automatically displaced.

Darkness cannot be cast out any more than a thought can. To stop thinking about a pink cow you will not say to yourself repeatedly, “I will stop thinking about a PINK COW!”  In fact, the more you say this the more you see the cow and the more the cow grows in front of your eyes!

To effectively lead your thoughts you can make use of the law of displacement. If there is a disempowering or limiting thought constantly knocking at the door of your mind, the best way to take charge of it is by displacing the disempowering thought with one that will create the desired feeling or focus. Your mind needs an effective leader to accomplish this shift and to take charge in this manner. You are the best candidate for this role.

Personal Reflection

Here are several questions for you to take a sincere assessment of your personal leadership effectiveness:

  • Are you a leader?
  • Who is the most important person you will ever lead?
  • If you are always taking orders from your mind and emotions, will you arrive where you want to?
  • Where do you rank in the quality of leadership over your mind test?
  • How can you benefit by becoming more effective in leading your thoughts?
  • How can others benefit by you becoming more effective in leading your thoughts?

What are some things that you’ve done to take charge of your life?

8 Comments
  1. i LIKE THE WAY YOU PRESENT THESE THOUGHTS! …ACCTUALLY IT MAKE YOU THINK AND RESPOND WITH A YES TO YOUR ANSWERS. I LIKE THE IDEA TO CHANGE FOCUS SAME AS THE LAW OF DISPLACEMENT. GOOD JOB!!!
    Y/A

    • Ms. Yoli,
      Thank you for your comments and I would love to hear if you are making use of any of the techniques provided.

      Nestor Lima

  2. Mr Lima, Thank you for putting this in print! You taught me this about a year ago. It help sink to a deeper level seeing the words. I love that you live what you teach, it is refreshing. My favorite part is you reminding us all that we have the control over our own mind. I use to live in a wolrd of manipulation and when you shared it was my choice to allow my mind to yeild to that manipulation…… It changed my world! For me to lead my children I must lead my own mind first! Thank you again for your wisdom and allowing me to gain understanding.
    Kathleen Sylvester

    • Ms. Kathleen,
      I am so glad this article has helped you take this concept to a deeper level. When I first developed this, it was a concept, which then became part of my natural mode of operation in regards to my mind.

      Now, I can turn a thought on or off at will. It is empowering, liberating and I am more productive as I am able to maintain my desired focus instead battling 1,000 undesirable and disempowering thoughts!

  3. Nestor: I commend you on the clarity with which you explain the pros and cons of self leadership. And if one were to look at the consequences of either side they may be startled to say the least! Lack of self leadership leads to lack of love, life and all you desire. Excellent work and true to authentic self, self leadership, or as I call it, personal power, is the BASIS for planning your life and the follow thru. As a coach you will be able to help many people reframe and redirect to a greatness they never imagined!
    Annette Perez
    Life Coach
    Creation Coaching

  4. Annette,
    Thank you for the wonderful comments! Personal leadership is all about discipline and self-control…our ability to use our personal power to create the changes and to take the actions we need to, in order to live a more fulfilled life
    Nestor Lima
    The Life-Purpose and Personal Leadership Coach

  5. Nestor:
    God has an amazing way of using people. This was incredibly written. I've learned to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. In doing so, I've learned to take leadership of this mind.
    Contine your good work in the Lord and may He blessed you and your family abundantly as you continue to allow HIS glory to shine out of you.

    Abundant Blessings
    Deborah Lira

    • Ms. Deborah, I am so glad to hear from you and to know that you have been enriched by this article. Life Coaching is very powerful…a small shift in one perspective has the potential to open a total new world of possibilities as it removes limitations, often self-imposed!

      Nestor Lima
      The Life-Purpose and Personal Leadership Coach

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